“If you’re a strong man, you should not feel threatened by a strong woman”
Do you think that a man will feel threatened by you if you’re earning more money than him and have more financial security?
It would probably be true to say that there will be some men who are likely to feel threatened by your success. However, a mature and well-balanced man is attracted to successful women, who are not only financially independent, but are also wise enough with their money to know how to invest it well. A woman like this is sending an indirect signal to men that she knows what she wants in life and that she’s a go-getter. Nothing will stop her once she set her mind to it! These personality traits are very attractive to men.
There are many other ways to be independent. Even women who have financial independence may find that they are emotionally insecure. Emotional independence and self-reliance are also very important to your wellbeing, but as is the case with financial independence, these traits can also feel threatening to some men. We have a long history of women relying on men for their emotional and financial wellbeing, and it has only really begun to change very recently. It can be difficult for some men to know what their role is in a relationship, if they are not expected to be the protector and the provider.
“Most men claim to desire driven, independent and confident women, yet when confronted with such a creature reverence often evolves into resentment”
A man who is committed to a successful woman will up his game in order to be a better man for her. My advice is to be yourself; if your man resents you because you’re more successful than him then he’s probably not the right man for you. It’s not your fault that you’ve had more material successful than him. If he tries to bring you down to his level so that he can feel good about himself then something is very wrong. Equally, if you are strong and stable emotionally, but he is always trying to find a way to push your buttons or to diminish your emotional health, then this is clearly going to be very damaging to you.
Looking from the outside, it may seem impossible to imagine a string, independent woman allowing such a man to have an impact on her life, but it can easily happen. In the early stages of a relationship it can be all too easy to be influenced by your man, and if their influence is unhealthy it may take a while for you to notice that you are diminishing yourself in order to please them. Instead of changing who you are to accommodate a man’s needs, stay true to yourself. Be the woman that you always wanted to be & NOT the person a man thinks you should be. Always remember that your destiny is in your own hands!
Staying true to yourself
Have you experienced a man trying to devalue your achievements in order to feel better about his own life? What did you do?