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A LITTLE ABOUT Me
It’s wonderful to get lost in a relationship, but if you’re not careful, you can lose yourself and the relationship. I fell in love and moved to South Australia to be with my boyfriend. I come from a very traditional background and wanted to do everything for him. I was constantly rearranging my work schedule for him. The only friends I had were his friends. I worked hard in the home and out to show him how lucky he was to have me. I put him first in every single thing for years and what happened? I felt like I was working for him all the time and not getting the appreciation I needed. I got a little bitter and frustrated. Nobody likes being with people who are bitter and frustrated so he pulled back. I’d keep working and not getting what I needed and get more bitter and more frustrated and he’d pull back more. It was a terrible time that culminated in him saying he wanted to end the relationship. I was devastated but in that moment, I had an epiphany. He hadn’t fallen in love with what I could do for him, he had fallen in love with me.
I took responsibility for taking care of myself and it has made all the difference. I love my life now. I have a circle of friends that make every day better. I’m building a business and even own investment properties. I am the complete person I was when he fell in love with me and our relationship has never been better.
We laugh together in ways we hadn’t for a long time. We still have our ups and downs—every relationship does—but we respect our differences and we’re communicating better than we ever have before so those disagreements don’t last.
I am glad he wanted to leave me. It was the bombshell I needed. It showed me that neglecting myself was not the way to build a relationship.
It’s wonderful to get lost in a relationship, but if you don’t hold on to the things that make you who you are, you’re putting yourself and your relationship at risk.
I know. I’ve been there, and I can help you avoid making the mistakes I made. If you’re already lost, I can help you find yourself again. You deserve to be happy and I can help make that happen.