“A relationship with no arguments is a relationship with a lot of secrets.”

No matter how deeply you and your partner love each other, you both will argue about something at some point. Couples often argue about the same things repeatedly. Usually, couples fight about many things or matters, rather big or small.

This blog post will give you a heads up on the most common topics couples fight about, so you can be prepared and maybe even avoid them to enjoy your relationship. Here are the five most common topics couples argue about, along with some tips for resolving them.

Money:

Michelle Singletary says:

 “Money may not buy love, but fighting about it will bankrupt your relationship.”

Money is always a touchy subject, especially when it comes between the couples. One person may be a saver while the other may be a big spender, or one may make a lot more money than the other. In 2009, a study reported about 100 couples had conflicts over 15 days in which 19% of conflicts were because of money. It shows may be money is often a source of stress and arguments for most couples.

If you’re fighting about money with your partner, it’s important to discuss your financial goals and concerns. Discuss what you’re comfortable spending, saving, and investing. Once you clearly understand each other’s financial views, it will be easier to agree on money issues.

House Chores: 

It’s no wonder that house chores can be a source of conflict between couples. One person may feel like he/she is doing all the work while the other doesn’t pull his/her weight. If you’re arguing about house chores with your partner, it’s important to discuss your expectations and devise a plan that works for both of you.

One idea is to create a chore chart with specific tasks that need to be completed each week. This way, both partners will know what needs to be done and when it needs to be done. You can also take turns doing specific tasks or alternate who does what each week. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s something that works for both of you.

Time: 

Couples often argue about how to spend their time. One person may want to spend more time together while the other needs some time to stay alone. It’s important to respect each other’s privacy and come up with a balance that works for both of you.

Try scheduling date nights or regular outings together. Make sure each person has some time each week to do things the way he/she enjoys. Finding a balance between spending time together and giving space to your partner will go a long way in reducing arguments about how to spend your time.

In-laws:

In-laws can be another touchy subject for couples. One person may feel like they’re too involved in your relationship, while the other may feel like they’re not involved enough. If you’re arguing about your in-laws, you must communicate with each other about your feelings.

Try to set boundaries with your in-laws that both of you are comfortable with. This may mean limiting how often they can visit or talk to you. It’s also essential to respect each other’s parents and family. It will only fuel the fire if one person feels like their family is being disrespected by his/her partner.

 Sex:

Couples often argue about sex because of many reasons. One person may feel like they’re not getting enough sex, while the other may feel like they’re having too much sex. If you’re arguing about sex, maybe it will hurt your partner’s feelings. The other reason for arguing about your sexual relationship is incompatible sex partner. 

The easy way to resolve the conflict with your partner regarding sex is to care for your partner’s liking or disliking. Having an open dialogue with your partner and the level of intimacy you both want during your private moments may lessen the arguments from both sides.  

Conclusion:

 It’s important to remember that all couples fight. It’s normal, and it’s healthy. What’s not healthy is repeatedly fighting about the same things without ever resolving the issue. If you find yourself in this situation, take a step back and try to look at the bigger picture. What are you arguing about? Is it something that can be resolved? If so, sit down and talk to your partner about it. It may surprise you how quickly you can come to a resolution. In the end, keep this in mind:

“Some relationships are like Tom and Jerry, they argue and disagree all the time, but they still can’t live without each other.”